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BDSM Glossary of Terms

To help understand more in depth about BDSM, one should understand the terminology associated. Being able to properly communicate wants and needs is critical to living healthy and safe.

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Abrasion – To wear down the skin by using friction. Materials and toys such as sandpaper, steel wool, rough cloth, and bottlebrushes are often used. This increases sensitivity while giving both pleasure and pain.


Acomoclitic – Preference for hairless genitals


Acucullophilia – Sexual attraction to men who are circumcised.


Adult Babies – Age play wherein the submissive is the baby. This may include diapering, powdering, wearing a pacifier, sleeping in a crib, etc. Rarely taken to a 24/7 extreme.


Adult Toy Chest – A place where one keeps their sex toys. A sex toy box.


Age Play – play that involves assuming the role of someone of a different age. Most commonly, one of the adults takes on the younger role, usually in the submissive capacity.

Algophilia – Sexual arousal from experiencing pain

Allopellia – Reaching orgasm from watching other people in sexual activities.

Alligator Clamp – A type of nipple clamp with tips that have teeth resembling an alligators mouth. Most clamps of this style come with removable rubber tips and have adjustment screws to limit how far they can close.


Altocalciphilia – High heel fetish

Anal Dildo – A dildo that is intended to be used with the anus as the receptor.

Anal Intercourse – Sex using the anus as the receptor.


Androminetophilia – Sexual arousal from female cross dressers


Ankle Cuffs – Attachable cuffs, generally made of leather, that enable a Dom to immobilize his submissive’s legs


Ankle Restraint – Any device including ankle cuffs that immobilize a submissiveness legs.

Animal Training – Training where the Dominant has his submissive play the part of an animal, such as horses and dogs. The most common is “puppy play”.


Asphyxiaphiliasee breath control


Autoclave – Professional sterilization device for piercing equipment.

Auto-erotic Asphyxiationsee breath control

Autogynephilia – Sexual arousal from cross-dressing

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B&D, B/D, B/d – Bondage and Discipline. Although they go together in this phrase, they are not inextricably linked. Bondage means restraining someone in a helpless position (Such as being tied up.) Discipline is training a person to behave in a certain way. They tend to go together because Dominants tend to do both to their submissive.


BDSM – A popular acronym for activities inclusive of (but not limited to) Bondage, Domination/Discipline Submission/Sadism & Masochism. Also called WIITWD, an acronym for “What It Is That We Do.” Both mean this type of alternative lifestyle. Sometimes the word “Bondage” has the same broad range meaning when used in a descriptive context.

BDSM Toy Box – A place where one keeps their BDSM gear or play equipment.

BJ – expression for blowjob (fellatio); ditto in the BDSM lifestyle


Ball Gag – A device with a rubber ball and straps, which secures the ball in the bottom’s mouth to stifle screams.


Ball Stretching – The practice of stretching the scrotal sack so that it hangs lower using weights or other devices to pull on it above the testicles. As the sack is pulled, the testicles are squeezed leading to discomfort and sometime pain.

Ball Torture – Causing pain to the male testicles, also included in CBT or cock and ball torture.


Ball Toys – Toys used for playing with the scrotum – such as weights, straps, etc.


Ball Weights – Weights used to stretch the scrotum. See Ball Stretching

BalletBoots – Extremely high heeled boots that require you to stand on the ends of your toes rather than the sole of your foot. Usually they have heels that are 8-9 inches and require considerable training and ability to walk in without assistance. Sometime also referred to as bondage boots.


Barbell – A straight piece of metal used in piercing, as opposed to a ring.

Basoexia – Sexual arousal from kissing

Bastinado – Foot torture involving the soles of the feet.


Beating – General term for such BDSM activities such as flogging caning, spanking, strapping, etc.

Belonephilia – Sexual arousal from use of needles

Belt – A leather strap used for striking the buttocks.


Blend Modality – Depilation (hair removal) using both electrolysis and thermolysis.


Blindfold – By blocking out sight – a common technique in SM scene – the bottom feels more vulnerable and increases the release of endorphins, thus contributing to the excitement in the scene.

Blood sports – A group of techniques in which the submissive’s skin is broken and blood is allowed to escape. Such as cutting, using needles, etc. See also “Edgeplay.”


Blowjob – Fellatio, head, sucking cock.


Body Art – Artful body modification including: piercing, tattoos and brandings.

Body Modification – Making alterations to the appearance of the body. Includes, but is not limited to, tattoos, piercings, brandings, scarification.


Body Shaving – Removal of hair with a razor. Female and male submissives commonly shave their pubic hair clean.


Bondage – Making a submissive physically helpless and to a great extent immobilized. Techniques include rope ties, handcuffs, leather cuffs, stocks and mummification.

Bootlicking – Licking and cleaning of a Dominant’s boots by a submissive is a common show of submission. Can also be a fetish.

Bottom – A submissive.