How To Spot A Swinger The top 4 clues that serve as breadcrumbs for other swingers on the prowl.

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October 18, 2020

Are there certain ways to identify swingers? This is the million-dollar question that comes up all the time in the swinging community. The general consensus among our swinger friends is that if there were a sign or symbol specific to those in the lifestyle, no swinger would use it for fear of being outed. We have friends who’ve attempted to use colorful lawn ornaments or exotic plants in an attempt to send self-identifying smoke signals to others in the lifestyle.

These little clues may serve as breadcrumbs for other swingers on the prowl but typically aren’t so bold they’d accidentally out them to their friends and neighbors.

While the swingers we know might not be displaying a banner saying “swingers looking to party” in their front yard, that doesn’t mean it’s completely impossible to identify clues and signs that your next-door neighbors just might be in the lifestyle.


Signs to help identify swingers Here are some of the signs that we, along with our swinger friends, have identified over the years.

1. They have lawn gnomes in their yard. Cute, sweet, and colorful lawn gnomes have always been associated with the swinging community.

Our neighbors, who have no idea we’re swingers, often joke about others in our neighborhood having gnomes and not knowing their true meaning. I always joke back and tell them maybe Martha and John are swinging well into their 80’s — you never know!

Come to think of it, my Grandma had lawn gnomes all over her yard. Perhaps this swinging thing is hereditary?

2. They wear curious jewelry. We’ve heard for years that a black ring on a man’s right hand is a way to identify fellow swingers. Or that a woman wearing an anklet on her right ankle is a sign a couple is out and open to meet other swingers.

While these might be identifying clues, I‘m fairly certain I wouldn’t trust these clues alone or attempt to break the ice by asking, “…so I see your ring/anklet, are you a swinger?” We recently learned there is an international symbol for swingers. Their website has jewelry, clothing, temporary tattoos, and accessories that aim to help attract and identify like-minded people worldwide.

While we might wear something like this when we’re out of town or traveling, we certainly wouldn’t wear locally for fear of being easily outed.

3. They have a hot tub. Having a hot tub on your back patio has consistently been associated with being a member of the swinging community. While I don’t necessarily think it’s a sure-fire way to tell, it is definitely a sign.

Admittedly, we do have a hot tub and so do many of our lifestyle friends!

Ours was purchased before we entered the lifestyle, but perhaps subconsciously we just knew we were destined for swinging?

4. They seem to get hotter with age. The swingers we know are aging like fine wine. When you think back to your dating years do you remember the lengths you went to in order to impress your dates?

Those of us in the lifestyle are still putting in that kind of effort.

While most people our age are skipping the gym, letting waxing fall off their priority list, and showering once a week we’re still keeping things tight from head to toe.

When you’re part of the swinging lifestyle, taking care of your health and appearance is important. My husband and I look better now, in our late-30’s, than we did when we were 25. Other rumored signs and symbols of swingers We’ve heard of various other symbols and signs being used over the years, but haven’t really been able to confirm any of them as accurate. A few other rumored signs floating around on the web include pampas grass in the front yard, a pineapple door knocker, pink flamingos in the yard, women wearing toe rings, and matching couples yin-yang tattoos.