It Was Our First Swingers Party in 10 Years and I Have Feedback for the Hosts

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Original Post: Mizzy Bender 8.31.2022

It Was Our First Swingers Party in 10 Years and I Have Feedback for the Hosts

Recently we attended a swingers party, receiving some feedback from a community member looking for thoughts from me. I tried to be as honest as possible. Give a read and listen. If you have any thoughts, feel free to email me at

Swingers Thoughts Submitted to Mizzy Bender:

She works really hard in the three hours leading up to us going to the party on our outfits. Trying to come up with something that will look nice and be colorful at the same time. We get there and no one even acknowledged our presence. We barely got a wave out of the hosts. Already, XXX is feeling very uneasy. This is her first party in over ten years. And, the last one she went to made her feel as though she had to strip naked and give herself to the whims of every guy in the club. She's not feeling welcomed or even wanted at this event. She sees the other women there and can't help but compare herself to them. This is where you and Lady made the greatest impression though and this was wonderful to see. You both told her to leave that baggage at the door and just own the incredible, sexy woman that she is. That's what I've been trying to help her see this whole time. But, despite your efforts, no one else engaged us and the hosts made no effort to introduce us to anyone as newbies. This is where everyone, not just the hosts, could do better. You, me, anyone at any event should be making newcomers feel welcomed and invited. Introduce them to others and insert them into conversations that they normally would have no clue how to get into without being extremely rude. Which is what happened to us. The advice we got was, "just make yourselves known. Put yourselves out there." Easier said than done when you don't want to come off as an asshole for interrupting someone else. This is where hosts can play a major role! As a host, they can politely interrupt a conversation to introduce new people and get them acquainted to the others and interacting with them. Breaking the ice gracefully. This can be extended to anyone in the group as well. If they see someone new, make them feel welcomed and introduce them to others. From my readings, this is a typical obstacle for many newcomers. If we can all work together to make people aware of this, we have the potential to gain many more participants and to make those that would otherwise be dissuaded from trying again to continue pursuing this adventure. XXX and I were not turned off from the lifestyle or the people at that event by any means. And, we want to make that very clear to everyone. The rave scene just isn't for us. But, we may have had a better experience if someone had brought us into a group. We honestly can't say. But, after we left, we took a walk down town and reflected on it together to come up with this constructive criticism for everyone. What are your thoughts?

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About Mizzy Bender

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Who doesn’t love to talk about sex and everything in between? Mizzy Bender is here to talk through all the down, dirty and not so fun moments that life has to offer. Mizzy is one female that isn’t afraid to embrace all aspects of life from sexuality to success.

Mizzy Bender is a 39 year old female entrepreneur and influencer leading the way within the Swingers / Alternative Lifestyle community. Mizzy’s journey started out with Mindbender Parties and still remains traveling the East Coast putting on full thematic swinger events with her partner in crime, Mr. Mindbender. Mizzy’s passion and drive is all about creating an environment that is all inclusive and judgment free, where we can be who we are without question. Where one can have a platform to talk about the things we are curious about without question, finding like minded humans to love and support one another.

Through this journey, Mizzy's Boutique was formed. An adult novelty shop starting out online and has since migrated into a traveling pop up boutique at swingers / alternative lifestyle events across the US.

Shortly there after, the podcast, The Mizzy Bender Show was created.

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About Mizzy’s Boutique

Mizzy’s Boutique is a Swingers Alternative Lifestyle Boutique that creates high-quality swingers / alternative lifestyle clothing and tumblers. We carry a wide range of erotic games, home goods, naughty accessories, humorous sex related t-shirts, sex toys (fox tail butt plugs), and so much more for the mature adult.

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Mindbender Parties starts with you and your choices of how you embrace the lifestyle. From mild to wild, your kinks are our pleasures. We put a great deal of time and effort into our events to do our best to meet your every desires. Upon arrival, you'll be greeted by one of our event Security Staff who will introduce themselves and offer their service throughout the evening. Assuring your safety and comfort are our #1 priority. Once inside you'll have the opportunity to mix and mingle with a respectful and attractive crowd. From there, let your inhibitions guide you. Whether it is dancing the night away to our DJ, tempting and teasing the crowd on the pole, take a ride on the swing or letting it all hang out in the play area, we find that our crowd of real people come back again and again.

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